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You’re not just overwhelmed.

You’ve been carrying more than you should—for longer than you realize.

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This isn’t about being “too nice.”​

It’s about the patterns that make you feel responsible for everything—

even when it’s not yours to carry.

Start Your Assessment

It takes less than 2 minutes—and will show you what you’ve been carrying without realizing it.

Choose one answer for each question. Based on what feels most familiar to you. 

Question 1​

When someone asks for help, my first reaction is usually: Required

Question 2​

I feel most resentful when: Required

Question 3​

I tend to say yes when: Required

Question 4

The feeling that usually shows up before exhaustion is: Required

Question 5​

When I imagine not doing as much for others, I feel: Required

*This assessment is a simple tool to help you name the unspoken rules you may follow. This assessment and it's results are the sole opinion of the author. It is not meant to diagnose and mental health challenges and is not meant to replace medical care. 

See Your Assessment Results

SCORING GUIDE: Each question is 1 point.

 

HOW TO SCORE: Count how many A, B, C, and D responses you selected. The highest total = Your dominant pattern. If there is a tie, you can choose between the following:

 

  • Use question 5 as the tiebreaker, because it reveals identity (not just behavior) or

  • Choose the result pattern that feels most accurate when read.​

Before you see your result, take a moment to notice how your body feels. Acknowledge any feelings or thoughts you may have. All of that is simply information.​

Enter your email to view your results and get a copy you can come back to.

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